How It All Started...
How It All Started...
...It all began with the beautiful, sweet, almost ethereal experience of the art cafés in Bangalore—their therapeutic ambience, the calming music that seemed to gently stroke the soul, and the comforting food that felt like a warm hug on a quiet day. I remember marveling at the creativity of human beings—how we had gone from building homes to building art cafés—spaces that combined so many of life’s tender, beautiful things together.
And then, like a gentle wave brushing softly over me, a thought came—
what if similar spaces could be built to nurture emotional intelligence in communities?
What if we had safe havens—homes—where self-reflection, emotional connection, and healing were as effortless and as natural as sipping a cup of tea with a friend?
A small smile crept onto my lips, but I brushed the thought aside—it felt too dreamy, too delicate to belong to the real world.
Life moved on, and I returned to my everyday rhythm as an Assistant Professor of Psychology, teaching and guiding young minds. That semester, I was assigned to teach a course called Emotional Intelligence.
But as I leafed through the dense, overly-theoretical books on the subject, something inside me ached. These books, ironically, made one forget that emotional intelligence is something we live and breathe every moment. It isn’t just a concept—it’s a feeling, a presence, a connection.
And that was when the old thought returned—this time, stronger, fuller, almost demanding to be brought to life.
First, I began innovating on my teaching. I designed reflective exercises and activities for my students, letting them feel emotional intelligence rather than just memorize definitions. At the end of the semester, 5 out of 7 students showed significantly higher emotional intelligence scores—a living proof that when we engage the heart, the mind blooms too.
But that wasn’t enough. The dream that had once felt “too dreamy” now wanted its own wings. So, we decided to actually build it—at least for a day—to let the entire university experience the safe, healing space we had imagined.
And so, on 11th October 2024, in the university space, together with my brilliant Psychology learners, we brought Mio Emocione—Italian for “My Emotions”—to life for the very first time.
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The air carried a gentle fragrance of herbs and flowers, soft melodies drifted in the background, and every corner glowed with warm, soothing colors. But this café wasn’t just a place to sip tea or coffee—it was a space where emotions were honored, explored, and celebrated.
The entire café was designed around the RULER model of Emotional Intelligence by Marc Brackett from Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence—encouraging every guest to Recognize, Understand, Label, Express, and Regulate their emotions.
At the entrance, a Mood Meter invited guests to place themselves in one of four boxes—red, yellow, blue, or green—depending on their mood and energy. Nearby stood a vivid Emotions Wheel, where visitors searched for the exact word for their feelings and put a pin to it. They also debated over rarely-used emotion words and realizing how limited their vocabulary for emotions often was.
Some guests chose to test their emotional intelligence at the first counter—playfully discovering their ability to recognize, understand, and express feelings, and earning candies for their efforts. Others wandered to the Wall of Emotions, splashing colors across a shared canvas that became a vibrant mosaic of joy, grief, hope, nostalgia—all side by side, as real as life itself.
There was also a Gratitude Wall, where people scribbled heartfelt thank-yous—some to friends, some to parents, some to life itself. Each note seemed to lift the room’s energy just a little higher.
A photo booth featuring the beloved emotion characters from Inside Out became a space of laughter and joy as friends posed with Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear, and Disgust—reminding everyone that every emotion matters.
At another corner, strangers and friends alike sat down for The Intimacy Questionnaire—a simple but profound activity that helped people see each other more deeply, sometimes with laughter, sometimes with tears. There was also “Words of Worth”, where guests completed affirming statements for each other, leaving hearts feeling seen and celebrated.
One deeply moving corner invited guests to explore their self-critical voice, followed by writing a heartfelt letter of love and kindness to themselves—a small act of compassion that left many with glistening eyes and lighter hearts.
Nearby, masks lay on a table—guests wrote on the front the image they showed to the world, and on the back, the parts of themselves they kept hidden. For many, this simple act was transformative—an honest encounter with their inner selves.
At the Emotional Toolbox station, guests picked stickers with different emotion regulation strategies and placed them inside cardboard boxes—tiny treasure chests of self-care to carry home.
Then there was a curious cloth-covered box that asked, “Who has the most beautiful smile in the world?” Beneath the cloth was a mirror—eliciting surprised laughter, shy smiles, and quiet moments of self-recognition.
Guests could also color human body figures, marking where in their bodies they felt different emotions—connecting mind and body in a profound way. For those curious about the science of feelings, a corner showcased fascinating research papers on emotions.
Playful experiments drew smiles—like the facial feedback activity, where guests held pens between their teeth or lips, learning how even a simple facial expression could shape how they felt.
Some sat quietly, coloring mandalas while sipping calming teas, embodying the serenity Mio Emocione aspired to create. Others wrote letters to their caregivers, weaving webs of complex emotions—love, grief, regret, forgiveness—finding release whether or not they chose to send those letters.
The café menu itself was a love letter to well-being—herbal teas like chamomile and hibiscus, comforting coffees, and treats like the Revive and Thrive Sandwich, fruit cream, and cupcakes that tasted like joy itself.
Music filled the air as guests strummed the guitar or played the piano, indulging in spontaneous music therapy for the soul.
Outside, two cheerful stalls brimmed with creativity. At one, students crocheted and sold pieces of their art alongside a heartfelt journal, “Let’s Be Emotional.” At the other, learners joyfully taught visitors to make slime—because play is healing, too. Bright smiley balls and squishy stress balls were sold, not as products, but as reminders that sometimes we just need to squeeze life out of our worries.
By the end of that magical day, Mio Emocione was no longer just a café. It had become a sanctuary—a living proof that when we create spaces to pause, reflect, and connect, hearts open, tears flow, laughter sparkles, and healing begins.
What started as a fleeting dream became a movement—a belief that emotional intelligence can be nurtured not just in classrooms or clinics, but in spaces filled with music, art, colors, conversations, and love.
As the sun set and the café lights dimmed, we watched people leave with glowing smiles, lighter steps, and a newfound tenderness—for themselves, and for each other.
🌿 Mio Emocione isn’t just a café. It’s a feeling. It’s a homecoming to oneself.
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